by Jonathan Okinaga
Challenge Of The Day: Work hard and do everything to the best of your ability. Quit finding excuses and start looking for solutions.
Laziness, slothfulness, sluggish, indifferent, slacker, etc. any of these traits are a recipe for disaster. If there is a word that sticks out the most regarding what I see as the most telling sign of someone not doing well in sobriety…negligent. It is defined as: failing to take proper care in doing something. Right now 13 of the 16 guys in my house are being negligent in multiple areas of life; work, program, God, relationships, health, responsibility, day to day living, respecting others, and the list goes on.
If I had a nickel for every time I had to remind them to do chores, go to meetings, keep the noise down after curfew, kitchen duty, wash clothes, wake up or just be “tidy,” I could retire for life in less than a month. What really pissed me off today is there were plumbers coming to fix a leak in the garage and certain things needed to be moved. One of the guys came up and said “They cant get to an area, im going to the beach.” Then I had guys on the balcony watching me move things out of the garage. Honestly it didn’t shock me that any of them didn’t think of helping. Considering im sick and was the only one doing work it shows the maturity of those currently here.
Leaders are supposed to lead by example….well there is only so much I can do. I almost asked a bunch of people to help but at this point, its just gonna be a fun house meeting coming up. New rules, bringing back some older ones and a system that I never wanted to re-institute….the check system. 3 checks = full house clean, 5 checks = find a new place to live.
What I was reminded of today was….
Lazy people want much but get little, but those who work hard will prosper. (Proverbs 13:4)
When I look at those in my house the ones that work hard are succeeding not only in recovery but emotionally, spiritually and physically. Then there are the lazy sluggards who do the minimum to get by expect everything to be handed to them on a silver platter but do nothing to achieve it. Unfortunately my house is full of the latter right now. You cant pick and choose what areas of life you’re willing to work at, sadly that is what Im surrounded by.
Last night Grace’s mom came over to sit and talk for a while. She commented that from what she sees and hears from her daughter its that I thrive under pressure. I don’t know how applicable that is because while I get everything accomplished there are times that I should rest more. I mean what’s the sense of having everything you could imagine without having the time to enjoy it?
The reason I included the last part is that Im not perfect. Yes, I work harder than anyone I know (besides my parents and most of my mentors). I could learn a little from the 13 guys who are lazy. Once a week I should do absolutely nothing and relax. They could also learn from me that the reason I have everything that they envy….its because I DO WORK and am willing to sacrifice to get it.